12 Jul 2012

Praise others



Just sharing a lovely quote today…



  1. You're welcome, Sindhu S! Thanks for reading :)

  2. Beautiful :) Thank you for sharing.

  3. Dear T.A.H.,

    This quote reminds me of the work of Brene Brown PhD, whose TED talks are among the most popular of all time. In her book, “I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t): Telling the Truth About Perfectionism, Inadequacy, and Power,” she writes the following in her introduction:

    Can you use shame or humiliation to change people or behavior? Yes and no. Yes, you can try. In fact, if you really want to zero in on an exposed vulnerability, you could actually see a swift behavior change.
    Will the change last? No.
    Will it hurt? Yes, it’s excruciating.
    Will it do any damage? Yes, and it has the potential to sear both the person using shame and the person being shamed.
    Is shame used very often as a way to try to change people? Yes, every minute of every day. 

    What the Venerable Swami Sivananda offers is a beautiful, natural antidote to a dysfunctional, common pattern. Training oneself to see what is good, and then praising it, is a wonderful habit. Nice to know it's holy.

    Thank you for sharing it. I am comforted.